Imposter syndrome and it’s negative voice has a way of dimming our inner light and obscuring our true potential because of a nagging voice which leaks messages of doubt and insecurity. As a psychologist specialising in imposter syndrome, I’ve encountered countless individuals grappling with the relentless chatter of their inner critic, questioning their abilities and accomplishments at every turn. They struggle to find their true voice and because of that, they don’t know which way to move forward. Whilst it is easy to get lost in this powerful voice and succumb to its messages, there does exist a path to rediscovering one’s authentic voice and embracing a sense of self which can see past the smokescreen of powerlessness.
How The Nagging Voice Holds You Back
At its core, imposter syndrome thrives by convincing us of the belief that we are somehow inadequate or undeserving of our achievements. Its negative voice dumps lies of unworthiness into our belief system continuously, convincing us that we don’t belong in the spaces we’ve worked so hard to occupy. But here’s the truth: the voice of the imposter is not our own. It is a distortion, a reflection of our deepest fears and insecurities, shaped by past experiences and societal pressures. The voice we are cocooned is a collection and extension of many of the voices that surrounded us, our parents and our ancestors throughout time. The voice in our head is an unwelcome replay of catastrophic thoughts being played on auto to prevent us from venturing out too far into the unknown, the place of danger. The more we listen to the voice, the stronger it becomes.
Recognising Imposter Syndrome in Yourself
So, how do we silence the relentless chatter of our inner critic and reclaim our true voice? It begins with self-awareness and compassion. It has to. Any change we make must start with awareness and then be followed by a compassionate acceptance of where we have arrived before changing the direction of the path in front of us. Acknowledging the presence of the imposter is an important step to take. By doing so we acknowledge it, label it and create a distance between it and us. These all combine to loosen its control over us. When you can see the bully, you can prepare by calling in resources of compassion, self-care, boundary setting and analysis through observation of the lies it spews. You can also recognise that you are not alone in your struggles as imposter syndrome is a common experience shared by many, regardless of age, background, or success.
How to Find Your Authentic Voice
Next, challenge the distorted narratives and negative voice perpetuated by your inner critic. To do this you may have to pay attention for a while and listen to what it is telling you. You can do this by journaling at the end of the day to collect some of the main negative thoughts you have been having. After 1-2 weeks you can look at all of them and identify some themes. Once you have those themes, you can then question the evidence supporting its claims and seek out counterexamples that highlight your strengths and achievements. Essentially you can give your imposter much-needed home truths. Embrace the truth that you are inherently valuable and worthy of success and belonging simply by being human. Then look at your background through the lens of compassion, knowing that you could only do what you knew at the time which is probably much less than you know now.
Moreover, cultivate a sense of authenticity and self-compassion in your journey towards overcoming imposter syndrome. Allow yourself to embrace vulnerability and imperfection, recognising that growth often arises from moments of discomfort and uncertainty. Surround yourself with supportive individuals who uplift and affirm your journey, and don’t hesitate to seek professional guidance if needed.
Reframing Your Inner Dialogue
Above all, remember that finding your true voice is a process, not a destination. It requires patience, perseverance, and a willingness to challenge the status quo. As you embark on this transformative journey, hold steadfast to the belief that your voice matters, your contributions are valuable, and you are worthy of every opportunity that comes your way. Doing the inner work is commendable and you might notice that others around you don’t value this journey or may not think the same way as you whilst you make new realisations. Prepare yourself for this by understanding that everybody is on their own journey, and it often takes one person in a system to think differently to change the family cycle.
In the end, the greatest triumph over imposter syndrome lies not in silencing the voice of doubt, but in embracing the truth of your inherent worth and reclaiming your authentic voice in the world. So, can you dare to speak your truth, own your story, and shine brightly as the unique and invaluable individual that you are?
If you would like some support in tackling your inner critic consider booking an assessment with Dr Kaur today.
